6 Ways To Fix A Breaking Long Distance Relationship

by Evan Michaels

Are you worried things are cooling off in your long distance relationship?

Well spice them back up with these 6 ways to make a long distance relationship work!

1.Write a letter

I don’t mean send an email or long text.

I’m talking old school writing (remember how to do that? With a pen). There’s something charming and honest about receiving a letter. It takes effort and time and is very appreciated.

Because it takes time to write, you can take time to really think about what you want to say. As opposed to email or texting where you might respond when you are in an irrational state (and could do damage).

2. Send a gift

It’s a pretty sweet feeling to receive flowers or movie tickets from your partner when you didn’t expect anyone to be thinking about you.

It’s an extremely considerate gesture that shows you are thinking about them, you care, and you want them to have fun wherever they are because of you.

3. Record a video

If you can chat on Skype with a webcam, that’s great too. But sometimes pre-recording a video can have a really strong impact. Especially if you made it before they left and snuck it on their computer (maybe an ‘I miss you’ vid or ‘this will keep your eyes off other people’ kind of vid)

4. Have a heart to heart

Schedule a good chunk of time together, get a glass of wine ready, and talk about the future.

This might sound lame, but taking turns one at a time encouraging each other to reach their goals and how you can help sometimes helps people realize how lucky they are.

5. Role-Play

Maybe your sex life (or lack thereof) is getting stale and needs a pick me up. Try role-playing in bed!

Sure it might seem a little awkward at first, but once you get past the initial embarrassment of something you aren’t used to, you will begin having massive amounts of fun together! Try it :)

6. Get it on

Sometimes you need to cut the talking and just get a little nasty together. ROUTINE IS BORING. Routine is literally a relationship killer, so spice it up sometimes.

Whether it’s phone-sex, video fun, text flirting, aim to please. You know how to satisfy them in the flesh, so work on doing it mentally. Really focus on what gets them off, and if you don’t know, ask them.

That’s it for today. 6 ways to fix a breaking long distance relationship.

Hope you enjoyed it, and see you next time!

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3 Common Reasons Long Distance Relationships Fail

by Evan Michaels

Oftentimes long distance relationships don’t work out, and usually one person is left looking for answers.

Today I’m going to outline 3 of the most common reasons long distance relationships fail.

1. Mistrust

The hardest thing for people to deal with is an active imagination.

For some reason the little voice in the back of our brains telling us what to do is a very mean voice. It makes most people worry and think awful thoughts.

Our minds like to play unrealistic scenarios on us that make us question how much we can really trust our partners. This mistrust turns to insecurity, and being insecure comes off extremely needy.

The LAST thing anyone needs to deal with when they are away is a needy partner. This can drive people away and often does.

2. People Change

Let’s face it, a year is a long time. And people change.

We mature, our tastes evolve.  Often over long periods of times couples realize that the person they are now with is different from the person they fell in love with.

It’s not uncommon for couples to have a difficult time finding things to talk about over time, or what the other person wants/loves. And this can result in a parting of ways.

3. One Sided Loving

Some people embrace change, others hate it.

Sometimes if a couple lives in the country and one moves to the city for work/school, as time goes by love can become more important to one person than the other.

People can get involved with work or school and leave no time to further their relationships. Peoples goals can change and sometimes it takes being away from the person you thought you loved to realized how important work is to you.

What can you do?

Nothing. You have to live your life one day at a time and enjoy it. If you are left behind and your lover has to go overseas in the army, or with work or school, support them. Love them and enjoy what time you get together. Other than that, try and grow and better yourself as a person. It’s the only way to get the most out of life.

Worrying is a waste of time. Don’t do it. Ever!

 

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