I think most people will
agree with me when I say that
distance is relative. What is important here is traveling time. Sure,
time
zones also play a part. I’ve been lucky in my own long distance
relationship so
far that I’ve always been in the same time zone, except for 3 days and
then it
was only a 1 hour difference.
The last time I was long
distance, the physical distance, should you charter a
plane to fly directly, is about 3000km. It’s not really that much, but
no
planes fly directly. If I want to go home, it’s a 4 day journey. It
starts with
me leaving early on the Saturday morning for the 60 km drive to the
nearest
airfield. Once again, don’t be fooled by the distance. The trip takes
at least
an hour and a half due to road conditions, and when it’s wet, it can
take up to
three hours.
From the airfield, it’s a 2 hour flight to the capital city.
There we have to wait for the whole of Sunday for the flight out Monday
at
noon. There is a flight on Sunday, and if we’re lucky, we can probably
get on
it. We only start traveling on the Saturday in case the planes don’t
fly due to
bad weather. Monday’s flight arrives back in my own country (South
Africa) 15
minutes too late for me to take the last flight back to my home town. I
then
take the earliest flight on Tuesday to finally arrive back home. If
there were
decent roads, I could drive the
distance in less time than that.
So how far
is too far?
Honestly, I don’t think
there is such a thing as too far.
Sure, traveling may take up quite a lot of time, but that’s just the
way it
works. I knew it’s going to take me 4 days to get home, so there’s no
use
complaining about it. Luckily it was on company time, and not part of
my time-off
that I was losing (I worked 10 weeks on 3 weeks off).
I was lucky in that
regard, but what if you have to take time
from your own leave to travel? I suggest you make a plan around it. If
you are
far apart, maybe you should try and meet halfway. Or try and arrange
your
traveling so that it takes place on or around weekends, long weekends
or public
holidays.
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If you’re smart and you
plan your holidays around public
holidays, you may end up with a lot more holiday time than you thought
possible. If possible, you should try and avoid traveling in the peak
traveling
times, but sometimes that can’t be avoided. If your love is worth it,
shouldn’t
you make a few sacrifices?
Try and get
out of it
Not the relationship, only
the long distance part of it. I
urge you to take a serious look at your relationship. Establish whether
or not
this is a long term proposition. I suggest you read Is my
partner worth it? at the articles
page to help you decide if you see a long term future for your
relationship.
Once you’ve established
that there is long term potential
for your relationship, you need to work on getting out of the long
distance
part. Maybe you could:
-
Get a new job
-
Ask for a
transfer to be closer
Get a new job
If you’re not going to
look, you’re not going to find. Make
a conscious effort to find a job that’s closer to your partner. Maybe
you will
have to work for a lower salary, but think of all the traveling costs
you’ll be
saving. Anyhow, money is temporary, happiness is forever. I’m not
suggesting
you go for a low-paid job that’s way below your abilities, but
seriously
consider whether it’s money or your partner that will bring you long
term
happiness.
Ask for a
transfer
Have you tried this yet?
Maybe you work for a large company
that is looking for someone in a different location, closer to your
partner. Or
maybe even a sister company. Nobody will try it for you. You have to
try it
yourself.
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know you are) how does 150 pages of first class
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What if you
can’t get out of it?
Once again, that’s my
situation at the moment. I’ve applied
for numerous jobs, but nobody’s hiring with the current economic
turmoil. Once
your application reaches them, they’ve closed down the position due to
lack of
finances. Or they only want to hire somebody with a lot more
experience. But
that doesn’t stop me from trying, and neither should you.
Always keep an eye out on
the local newspapers. Get your CV
up to date and keep it up to date. Submit you CV to recruitment
agencies and
tell them what kind of job you’re looking for and in what area.
And then you should work
on your relationship. Always work
on your relationship. So you can’t get out of the long distance part
right now?
Well that’s no excuse to end your relationship. I know of people that
have kept
up successful long distance relationships for years and years. It takes
effort
on both parts, but it doesn’t mean it can’t be done.
If you are
really committed to making the relationship work,
you will find a way to make it work. Don’t listen to people that say
that long
distance relationships can’t work. They’ve been proven wrong time after
time.
It’s true that they are difficult, but nothing good comes without some
sort of
hard work. I know you can do it.
Best of luck
Leon
